Facebook is great for reconnecting with old friends, but when they used to be with someone – and now they are not with that person for whatever reason, that becomes the elephant in the room.
Let’s say you meet that person to “catch up” – you (or maybe it’s just me) feel awkward asking, “So, tell me what happened to your marriage/relationship/etc?”
To me, women have the biggest cajones of all and ask all kinds of personal questions;
“So, you’re seeing someone new? Is it a thing? Is it serious?”
“Now that you two are a couple, will you get married? When? Where? Will you have drinks with umbrellas as the reception? Can you make sure the umbrella colors match my outfit?”
“Now that you guys are married, will you have kids? When? Are you trying?”
Women have a gift of no fear when they begin the line of questioning that would make a Senate hearing seem tame.
I’m not a woman. I would feel funny asking a guy I’m reconnecting with, “Hey how’d you screw up your marriage/relationship to your hot wife/girlfriend? Hey, don’t get mad – she’s not your wife/girlfriend anymore. Was it because of your Star Trek figure collection? I told you to switch to Star Wars, but you wouldn’t listen…”
Sure, you could scroll back through photos to divine the root cause of the breakup, but usually by the time you reconnect with someone, they’ve deleted all photos with that person and/or posts that mentioned them.
What Facebook needs is a “Not So Nosy Wha’ Happened” button to use Mark Zuckerburg’s coolio algorithm to bring you up to speed on why a couple broke up. Heck, I’d even pay for that information (Do you hear me, Mark Z – it’s a new revenue stream for you, INSTEAD OF ANNOYING ADS!!!).